At Applied Attention, we start with the assumption that you don’t need to be fixed.
We assume that you want to be well, to do well, and to do good.
We assume that your desire to thrive, grow, connect, and support others is a strength to build upon.
You lose focus on what really matters in the midst of daily demands and distractions.
Your strategies for avoiding discomfort pull you away from the experiences, goals, and relationships that you value most.
You feel overwhelmed, stuck in old patterns of thinking and behavior, or uncertain about how to move forward.
You have an incredible capacity for greater ease and freedom in life and work.
You have the capacity to focus your attention and energy on what is most important in the face of daily demands and distractions.
No matter what our circumstances, where we put our attention and our energy is the single greatest determinant of the quality of our experience. Putting our attention and energy into what is unimportant or outside our control leaves us dissatisfied, frustrated and exhausted. Fortunately, each moment provides an opportunity to refocus on what is present, important, and under our control.
Being human is complicated.
We are thinking, feeling, social creatures who often operate out of unconscious habit. Some of these habits serve us very well while others work against what we are trying to accomplish. Our brains are constantly assigning meaning to what is happening around us and within us. We often confuse what is happening with the meaning we have assigned to it.
Human relationships are complicated.
We often assume that we know what others are thinking and that they know what we are thinking. We develop patterns of communication that vary from passive to aggressive. We can find ourselves evaluating others based on unspoken expectations and holding onto unresolved conflicts or resentments for years.
The world is complicated.
Events are often not what we would choose. The weather, other people, traffic, markets – these are all outside our control. We can create a great deal of exhaustion and frustration by putting our energy into trying to manage the unmanageable. Knowing the difference between what shows up in life and what we practice in response can have an enormous impact on the quality of our lives.
Living well and working well are skills that are strengthened with practice.
We give individuals and teams the tools they need to live and work peacefully, positively, and purposefully. Our approach to well-being includes elements that are innerpersonal, interpersonal, and organizational. If you are seeking greater well-being, stronger relationships, more effective communication, or a healthier team culture, then you will benefit from working with Applied Attention.
We can help you:
Work with stress, anxiety, distraction, setback, and procrastination
Leverage energy and cultivate positivity
Communicate clearly, kindly, and assertively
Clarify values, priorities, roles, and responsibilities
Create clear agreements and commitments for action
This approach is research-based and human-centered.
Our coaching, training, facilitation, and consultation are based on principles and practices derived from the study of neuroscience, human development, human performance, group dynamics, and leadership. We offer individual coaching and well as keynote speaking, in-services, retreats, seminars, and ongoing consultation.
You will learn how To:
Bring awareness and acceptance to present experience
You will learn how to notice when your attention wanders and bring it back to what is going on around you and within you in this moment. This practice is the foundation for working with challenging emotions and choosing effective responses. This practice is associated with overall well-being, creative problem-solving, and strong interpersonal relationships.
Cultivate positive internal resources
You will learn how to strengthen your access to gratitude, curiosity, compassion, and joy. Positive emotions have been shown to improve engagement, performance, and overall health. This practice allows you to be more resilient in the face of setback and more open to new challenges.
Distinguish between facts and interpretations
You will learn how to separate events from the stories you tell about them. This practice supports for personal well-being as well as effective communication – especially when there is the potential for conflict or misinterpretation of intent. This practice allows you to tackle challenging situations with a greater sense of collaboration and humor.
Check in to build community
You will learn how to ask three simple questions that convey interest and understanding. This practice allows you to connect with others authentically in a short period of time. This simple practice is the foundation for a positive team culture.
Speak clearly, assertively, and kindly
You will learn how to express your viewpoint and concerns in a way that others can hear without becoming defensive. This practice reduces the likelihood of misunderstanding and increases the likelihood that final agreements will meet the needs of everyone involved.
Listen and reflect for understanding
You will learn how to use the other person’s words to understand exactly how they are seeing a situation. This practice allows you to build rapport and trust so that conversations and negotiations are satisfying and clarifying rather than frustrating and confusing.
Question to identify values and priorities
You will learn how to use the expression of positive or negative emotions as an opportunity to discover what is most important. This practice allows you explore resistance and frustration as a source of insight rather than something to be avoided. This practice helps you support others rather than getting caught in negative drama.
Entertain multiple perspectives
You will learn how to be genuinely curious about different viewpoints of the same situation. This practice allows you to create a more complete understanding and appreciation of challenges and opportunities. It also allows relationships to deepen even when there is a difference of opinion.
Identify alternative solutions
You will learn how to draw out a variety of possible strategies for moving forward. This practice allows you to engage different voices, entertain novel approaches, discover themes, and find innovative solutions.
Create clear agreements for action
You will learn how to identify specific commitments for which team members will be accountable. This practice removes the unnecessary uncertainty of unspoken expectations and the frustration of unclear responsibilities.
“No words can sufficiently explain how much appreciation and respect I have for Dave’s work. He is an extremely positive and engaging person who is a true joy to work with.”
~ Lin Kobayashi, Founder, International School of Asia, Karuizawa
“The work I have done with Dave has been transformational. It has had an immediate and sustainable impact on my family relationships, my business results, and my general wellbeing.”
~ Dan Greenleaf, President and CEO, Home Solutions
“Dave’s efforts have been transformative for our community. We have learned to be more intentional in developing a positive and cohesive school culture.”
~ Mike Davis, Head of School, Colorado Academy
“Dave is THE REAL DEAL. His integrity, honesty, and way of helping others consider new approaches to dealing with life’s challenges are qualities that we don’t find often. That is something more than money can buy or words can express.”
~ Melanie Chapman, Los Angeles, CA
“Dave is one of the most gifted speakers I have ever heard. He is inspirational, and in fact is one of the few people who inspires me to be a better person. One key to Dave’s natural leadership is the fact that he lives the life we all aspire to.”
~ Greg H. Kubicek, CEO, Holt Inc.
“In all my years of teaching, the retreat you led was the most valuable and important thing we have done. You gave us tools to find our common ground, even when others may frustrate or challenge us. The beauty is that these skills are within our reach and all we need to do is remember what is most important.”
~ Tina Rivera, Teacher, Denver, Colorado
“Dave’s model of well-being combines a neuroscientific approach with personal awareness. He has taught me how to respond to my emotions in a profoundly positive and productive way. Dave is one of the most inspiring people in my life.”
~ Alexx Temena, Santa Barbara, California
“Anyone seeking to gain greater focus and productivity would benefit tremendously from working with Dave. Business leaders are likely to gain a competitive advantage by having their employees spend time with Dave, and I can’t think of a better human resources investment.”
~ Mark Schwartz, Former Chairman and CEO, Specialty Merchandise Corporation