How to Find The Meaningful Life Hidden By Struggle

“If there is no solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
Yesterday was Read More

Simple, Powerful Opportunities to Be Peaceful in a Frantic World

Photo by Thomas Lefebvre on Unsplash


“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” ~ Mary Oliver


We live in a frantic world. We do not need to live Read More

1657 Days and Counting: Why I Practice Mindfulness

I started a mindfulness practice for the first time in 1992. Today the meditation timer on my phone let me know that I have not missed a day since December 28th, 2012. That works out Read More

Seven Ways Not To Be A Resentful, Ungrateful, Entitled Turd

“We always may be what we might have been.”
~ Adelaide Anne Procter

“I spend so much time and energy complaining and blaming – I mean, a lot of time and energy. It’s hard for me Read More

How Did an Angry, Anxious Cynic Come to Teach Awareness, Acceptance, and Compassion?

He was a victim. He was an anxious, angry, scared, cynical victim. Not all the time. Sometimes he was a fun, welcoming, open, kind guy. I say he was a victim because he thought that Read More

Privilege, Suffering, Pleasure, Purpose

It has taken me over fifty years to learn how to savor a warm cup of earl grey tea on a cloudy Sunday afternoon.

I am also aware that this is a luxury that many in Read More

Personal Growth: Why We Might Choose a More Graceful Approach to Change

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~ Carl Rogers

I was recently talking to a friend who is facing a major health challenge. Her situation Read More

The Mindful Path to Confidence

“Don’t worry, everything will work out.” “You are going to do great.”

We hear statements like these all the time. They are usually intended to be comforting or encouraging. But, how can people know how Read More

Why We Might Choose To Be Grateful When Anxiety Shows Up

Looking back, I can see that I struggled early on, but I didn’t have a name for what I was experiencing. In my senior year of high school I was a straight “A” student, captain Read More

Every Emotion Points to a Value: How to Use Them to Live More Peacefully and Purposefully

A few hours before I get on a plane to travel for work, I usually experience some mild anxiety. It is not about the air travel – I love to fly. In fact, I love Read More

The “SAD” Trend of Modern Culture – and How to Be Enough Within it

I was recently talking to a man who is well-regarded in his career, has a wonderful family, and lives in a very nice neighborhood. He was telling me how challenging he and his wife are Read More

Making Our Schools Well-being Centered

I will admit my bias right off the bat – I believe that the ultimate bottom-line of education is the well-being of individuals and communities. I cannot get excited by the idea that the deepest Read More

Why Practice Mindfulness? — The Connection Between Awareness and Choice

Some days go much better than expected. Some days (or weeks, or…) feel like a struggle. Some days start full of promise and end with nothing to show for all of the positive intention and Read More

Starting the Day Intentionally and Powerfully: Focus, Sweat, Shiver, Sit

At the age of 51, I have settled upon a beginning of my day that really works for me. I do it whether I am traveling or I am at home, whether I am on Read More

The Discipline of Compassion

This photo was taken when my youngest son, Eli, was two years old. He is now 17 and 6′ 3″ tall. It is so easy to forget that we are all just children who have Read More

Cold and Beautiful: We Can Practice Living All of Life

The picture above is of fresh snow in the mountain town where I am working in Japan. It is cold and beautiful. Such a metaphor for how life feels sometimes.

Consider how extraordinary it is that Read More

What is Unconditional Wellbeing and Why Does it Matter?

Our health, happiness, and performance depend to some degree on our genetics and our environment. In other words, some things such as the weather, the markets, other people’s behavior, and even the feelings and thoughts Read More

A Wish for the New Year

Dear Friends,

Here is my wish for the New Year:

That we give ourselves permission to stop pretending that we are perfect and shiny all the time (or that we will be someday if we just try Read More

The Miracle of Daily Practice: Consciously Shaping Your Brain for Wellbeing

I used to feel so self-conscious about what others thought of me, that speaking in front of a large group was unthinkable.

I used to feel so insecure in social situations, that alcohol felt like the Read More

You Make A Difference. Not Making a Difference Isn’t an Option


It is impossible to live a separate life of no impact. We are connected in the most complex and tangible ways.

Consider a single carrot on your plate. How many people were involved in the entire Read More

Why it is Worth Practicing Awe Everyday

The photo above was taken at sunset from our backyard.

It is a great reminder that I don’t have the foggiest idea of how insanely fortunate I am to be alive.

It is so easy to get Read More

How Do We Find Freedom from Stress and Anxiety in a Demanding and Distracting World?

Constant access to phone, email, texts, tweets, and a 24 hour news cycle keep us connected and up to date. And…they keep our nervous systems vigilant. We are capable of putting ourselves on alert first Read More

What I Have Learned About the Value of a Good Ol’ Fashioned Breakdown

When I was twenty-seven years old, I hit a wall. Literally. I punched a wall. I woke up in the hospital with my hand in a cast and pins sticking out in several directions. I Read More

This Simple Idea Can Change Your Life.

Everything you do is practice.

It’s that simple.

When you argue, you get better at arguing. When you listen, you get better at listening. When you complain, you get better at complaining. When you are kind, Read More

Learn How to Love Your Anxiety (or at least keep it from running your life)

When I was in my twenties, anxiety had me running around frantically trying to get approval and prove that I was enough. Anxiety had me curled up in a ball on my living room carpet Read More