Connecting with Unconditional Love in the Face of Uncertainty: Lessons from the Midst of a Wildfire


As I write this I am evacuated from my home in Carpinteria, California due to the Thomas Fire. We are safe, but flames fill the landscape on three sides of the hill where we live. Read More

Leadership: Giving and Receiving Feedback With Self-Compassion

Seven years ago, I left my teaching job and started a coaching and consulting business. I had no idea how to market what I was doing. I began by sending out a mass email through Read More

Mindfulness and the Power of Beginning Again with Gratitude and Kindness

This is a really good time of the year to think about what you practice on a daily basis. One of the reasons I love mindfulness practice is because it has many benefits – greater Read More

How To Be More Flexible In Your Thinking And Relationships, And Why It Is Really Good For You

It is difficult to express how much gratitude I feel for all of the wonderful lessons and reminders about human potential and human connection that I have received. Most recently, these lessons have come during Read More

“That was so cool!” The Transformative Power of Simple Human Kindness

Earlier this week I was getting my haircut at my favorite barbershop in Santa Barbara – Willies. It is no frills and I love going there for three reasons:

They are in no hurry. This Read More

How to Take A Mindful Approach to Unmet Expectations


Today I am sitting in a chair getting treatment for leukemia. The prognosis is very good, but the path is more complicated than I had expected. This leads me to think about the human experience Read More

Gratitude & Awe — A Mathematical Argument for Practicing Them Daily

My son and I just watched an episode of Cosmos and talked a bit about the chances of human existence. Then we considered our own personal existence. Inspired by our discussion, I did a bit Read More

How to Remember to Love

Fear, anger, distraction, boredom, annoyance, resentment, pettiness, sadness, loneliness, anxiety, stress – these are all normal parts of the human experience. Try as we might, we cannot find a permanent or healthy escape from them Read More

It’s All Love: An Old Antidote to Modern Anxiety

Small everyday events can be a source of wisdom. This story is about a cup of coffee.

Before I tell you this story, it is helpful to have some context. My wife, Marnie, brought the Read More

Stressed? Anxious? Afraid? Angry? Two Simple & Powerful Ways to Work With Difficult Emotions

“Never let fear decide your fate…” – from Kill Your Heroes by AWOLNATION

“I get furious at the people I love for no good reason.”

“I am almost always stressed first thing in the morning.”

“My anxiety is Read More

How Being Mindful Can Get You Out of a Funk

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As a result of a leukemia diagnosis and treatment a few years ago, I get my blood tested with some frequency. This morning, as I waited for my appointment, I Read More

We Can Find Peace, Freedom and Connection in the Presence of Anxiety

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Anxiety – from the low background type to the intense panic type – is part of the human condition.

So is the desire to get rid of it.

And so is our Read More

Why I Love Uber and Lyft

Alim is a Jazz musician originally from Russia and now living in Kentucky. Silvernus is a graduate student from Cameroon studying finance in the US. Paul is a retired marketing professional who supports Donald Trump Read More

How to Leverage the Biology of Healthy Leadership (And Why Leaders Have a Duty to Take Care of Themselves)

Healthy organizations contribute to the well-being, engagement, and productivity of the people in them. This may sound transparently obvious, but it is a fact that is routinely overlooked or ignored. Perhaps more importantly, leaders who Read More

Be Happier and Healthier By Looking for This

I was on a flight not long ago where a mother was sitting with an infant who was crying. The person sitting next to her asked if she could hold the baby. The mother looked Read More

How to Be Free When You Feel Anxious

People might have been staring at me. I don’t know because my eyes were closed. I am sitting in the Los Angeles airport at gate 73 waiting to board my flight for Chicago. I set Read More

How to Find The Meaningful Life Hidden By Struggle

“If there is no solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it.” ― Dalai Lama XIV
Yesterday was Read More

Simple, Powerful Opportunities to Be Peaceful in a Frantic World

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“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” ~ Mary Oliver


We live in a frantic world. We do not need to live Read More

1657 Days and Counting: Why I Practice Mindfulness

I started a mindfulness practice for the first time in 1992. Today the meditation timer on my phone let me know that I have not missed a day since December 28th, 2012. That works out Read More

Seven Ways Not To Be A Resentful, Ungrateful, Entitled Turd

“We always may be what we might have been.”
~ Adelaide Anne Procter

“I spend so much time and energy complaining and blaming – I mean, a lot of time and energy. It’s hard for me Read More

How Did an Angry, Anxious Cynic Come to Teach Awareness, Acceptance, and Compassion?

He was a victim. He was an anxious, angry, scared, cynical victim. Not all the time. Sometimes he was a fun, welcoming, open, kind guy. I say he was a victim because he thought that Read More

Privilege, Suffering, Pleasure, Purpose

It has taken me over fifty years to learn how to savor a warm cup of earl grey tea on a cloudy Sunday afternoon.

I am also aware that this is a luxury that many in Read More

Personal Growth: Why We Might Choose a More Graceful Approach to Change

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~ Carl Rogers

I was recently talking to a friend who is facing a major health challenge. Her situation Read More

The Mindful Path to Confidence

“Don’t worry, everything will work out.” “You are going to do great.”

We hear statements like these all the time. They are usually intended to be comforting or encouraging. But, how can people know how Read More

Why We Might Choose To Be Grateful When Anxiety Shows Up

Looking back, I can see that I struggled early on, but I didn’t have a name for what I was experiencing. In my senior year of high school I was a straight “A” student, captain Read More