Mindfulness and The Mixed Blessing of Imagination
Theo Jansen designs beasts that are animated by the wind. If that makes no sense to you, then watch this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Qdr5vZ5btU
His imagination, and his ability to bring his ideas to life, is remarkable to Read More
Are We Losing The Heart of Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is everywhere. You cannot pass a magazine rack or read the news without coming across some mention of this ancient and recently popularized practice. It is being introduced in schools, medical treatments, and businesses Read More
Mindfulness & The Industrial Happiness Complex: Why The Gospel of Comfort & The War on Discomfort are Making Us Miserable
I have spent about 30 years studying, teaching, and coaching the principles and practices of wellbeing. My search began in response to my own struggles with anxiety, perfectionism and insecurity. My life’s experience has led Read More
Freedom From Discomfort: Working Peacefully and Powerfully with Stress, Anxiety, Reactivity, Overwhelm and Every Other Form of Discomfort
Karen had an intense crush on Oscar all through high school. Her friends often reminded her that she was free to talk to him – or even tell him how she felt. Just the thought Read More
Up To It: Compassionate Confidence as an Antidote to Anxiety, Stress, Avoidance & Reactivity
How different would your life be if you really trusted yourself?
What if you knew in your bones that you had the internal resources you needed to deal with disagreement, disapproval, discomfort, disappointment, setback, loss….
What if Read More
“Tell Me More” — Practicing Listening & Understanding When You are Triggered
Imagine a moment in a debate where a Democratic candidate responds to a Republican candidate (or vise versa) with something like “Let me see if I understand your point” and then reflects back what she Read More
The Courage and Self-Compassion to Receive (and Really Consider) Feedback
“This is bull.” I have had these three words directed at me twice while speaking in public. The first time was several years ago. On that occasion I did what I have done many times Read More
The Freedom and Power of Acknowledging Our Mortality
We are each going to die. Ouch. What a first line to a blog post. While this is not a popular thing to acknowledge or discuss, it is a simple truth of human existence. Unless Read More
How Human Is Your School?
Think about this past week. Consider the challenges you faced and dealt with in your own life. What percentage of these challenges were resolved with academic knowledge? What percentage of these challenges were inner-personal or Read More
10 Minutes That Can Make Your Life More Peaceful & Joyful Everyday
These thoughts are inspired by time spent with a young man who is earnestly seeking a meaningful and fulfilling life. I have known him since he was a little boy, but have not sat down Read More
How to Enjoy Life
“It did not really matter what we expected from life, but rather what life expected from us.” ~ Viktor Frankl
You can be overwhelmed, underwhelmed, or just plain whelmed. You can be disgruntled (upset), but you Read More
Enough. The incredible practice of knowing that you are up to it.
“You are enough.” This is a popular sentiment in the self-improvement world. But what does it mean exactly? I think of it this way — you can deal with whatever happens. Maybe not perfectly. Maybe Read More
Mindfulness Practice: Cultivating the Love We Seek
Since I was quite young, I can remember feeling an emptiness in the middle of my body. A longing. It seemed to go away when I received praise, appreciation, or affection. So, over time, I Read More
Four Ways That Mindfulness Meditation is Just Like Life
I started meditating about twenty-five years ago. I began because I was struggling with anxiety, doubt, and insecurity, and my coping strategies were often more destructive than the emotions I was trying to avoid. So, Read More
The Blessing of Not Beating Yourself Up
Here’s a glimpse into my life. It starts with sitting in an airplane in Chicago for two and a half hours while they fix something related to one of the engines. I am actually not Read More
Mindfulness: Working Peacefully With A Reactive Nervous System in a World Full of Triggers
I have a reactive nervous system – what I mean by this is that little things in the environment can trigger a strong reaction in my body. In fact, until I was in my early Read More
“You’re one of us” — Observations of Humanity
Yesterday I was in the Newark airport. I had some time before my flight, so I stopped by the meditation room in my concourse. When I walked in, there was a young woman praying the Read More
“We’ve Done The Mindfulness Thing”: Teaching Students To Use Their Attention Skillfully
“We did the whole mindfulness thing.” This was an assurance from an educator that I met at a national conference. She went on to tell me about how they had had people come in and Read More
There Is No Lesson Here — It’s Just Awesome
Recently I was meeting with a group of pre-kindergarten students in Oregon. I was teaching them some practices for paying attention. We began by closing our eyes, sitting still, and listening to sounds. Each time Read More
A Baker’s Dozen of Small Choices for a Kinder, Happier & More Fulfilling New Year
My coaching centers around unconditional well-being — these are the aspects of our quality of life that are not dependent on our circumstances. These are dependent on what we practice regardless of our situation.
How Read More
Heaven & Hell In Daily Life
There are two stories of heaven and hell that I love. The first comes from the Zen tradition.
A wise teacher is sitting in meditation when a warrior barges into the hall, strides up to the Read More
Calm While Anxious? Working Mindfully with Chaos
Stuck in traffic. Late for a meeting. Can’t fall asleep. Getting kids out the door. Need to have a tough conversation. Concerned about finances. Waiting to hear from the doctor. There are lot’s of situations Read More
Mindfully Leverage Your Brain For A Fulfilling Life
The human brain is complicated. It can lead to irrational behavior such as yelling at small children about the importance of kindness or creating unnecessary stress by putting off simple tasks.
A lot of our complex, Read More
How Mindfulness Has Changed (and Possibly Saved) My Life
When I was growing up, the world around me felt like an intense and sometimes dangerous place. There was a lot of drinking, yelling, and unpredictable behavior. My nervous system came up with ways to Read More
You Are Not a Badger: Training Your Human Brain for a Peaceful Life
Human beings are more complicated than badgers. This is not a criticism of badgers – I love them.
I want to be clear, I am not a badger psychologist. I do not have special insight into Read More